My Blog!
I update approximately every 2 weeks on wednesday. Here’s my most recent post:
Autistic Joy is a topic that sheds light on ways neuro-diversity can be rewarding and valuable. It allows us to explore how letting down our walls and stepping out of gate-keeping can open us up to profound positive experiences.
Past Blog Posts:
Anxious Thoughts - How Do I Change Them?
Everyone has anxious and intrusive thoughts, which can cause discomfort and make us unhappy! In this post I’m going to explain my advice for dealing with them…
Autism - Am I Allowed to Call Myself Autistic?
Short answer: Yes. Gatekeeping has become a normalized part of any community, but often it’s those people who don’t identify with a label…
We have a lot of messaging in our society about how bad anger is. How it’s undesirable, and that people with anger issues should feel guilty and ashamed…
Autonomy and the Self: All the Different Kinds of Autonomy
We can boil autonomy down to one question: Who has access? And only one person has the right to answer it: You.
Boundaries: What They Do and How They Work
Boundaries have become a pretty common topic of conversation and social media posts; But, like all trending relationship advice…
Eco-Anxiety and Eco-Grief: Understanding the Psychology Behind the Climate Crisis
I struggle with knowing there’s so little I can do about it, that so much of the damage is permanent. Knowing we aren’t anywhere ready, as a culture, to take ownership of these issues.
Energy - Physical, Mental, and Emotional Fatigue
Low energy that doesn’t seem to have a reason or solution can be frustrating, and have drastic impacts on mental health…
Feminism in Mental Health: Gender politics, Emotional Health, and Relationships
I find having conversations about mental health requires some acknowledgement of gender differences…
Irrational Thinking: Cognitive Distortions: What are They and How to Change Them.
A list of Cognitive Distortions - or irrational thoughts that can cause issues if left alone too long and some tips for challenging them.
Intelligence: What It Is and What It Isn’t
There are a lot of inconsistencies and gaps in the way we talk about and react to intelligence in our culture…
Letter to the Beginner Therapist: Advice From One Only Slightly More Experienced
I’m writing this three years after my very first therapy session - and yes, I still very much feel like a beginner…
Letter to the New Client: What to Expect From the Therapy Process
The first thing to be aware of is that finding the right therapist for you sometimes takes some doing…
Mind and Body - Cultural Dualism, Body-Image, and Self-Conceptualization
We tend to treat our minds and bodies as inherently separate pieces of ourselves…
Making Mistakes and Managing Shame: Permission to be imperfect
In a day we make hundreds of decisions, from brushing our teeth to locking our doors to paperwork and conversations. And let's say out of every one hundred decisions, I make 99 of them fairly well…
Modern Relationships - Loneliness, Yearning, and Real Time Connection
Loneliness isn’t about other people at all - it’s just about us…
My Therapist Doesn’t Wear A Bra: Commentary on Therapeutic Professionalism and Self-Presentation
It’s me. I’m the therapist that doesn’t wear a bra. The clothing we wear utilizes cultural associations to signal stereotypes to the people around us - these messages impact other people’s perception of us.
My Autistic Body: Sleep, Pain, Stomach, Illness, Hormones
I’m writing this post to shed some light on how neuro-diversity impacts the body - and therefore our relationships to our bodies and our experience of our bodies.
Motivation: Losing it and Making it
We tend to think about motivation as something we have control over. And we tend to act like how much control we have over our motivation decides our self-worth…
Neuro-Diverse Communication - What We Can Learn From Autistic Ways of Connecting
I’m going to take a rather daring step forward and argue, now, that in some ways, autistic ways of speaking are actually superior.
Overwhelm: Getting Better at Drowning
I’ve found that the word overwhelm refers to a particular experience, psychologically. It’s not quite the same as feeling anxious or down, not quite the same as exhaustion or burnout…
Politics in Therapy: Guarding the Balance
As political concerns become more frequent and personal the boundary between our political lives and everything else thins and cracks…
Guidelines for mental and emotional self-care for beginners.
Socialized Dissociation: The Western World’s Bleeding Bandage
Dissociation is something the body does, but people and society often behave in surprisingly similar ways. And culture might be indirectly teaching us to numb out…
The ‘T’ Word: Trauma is Everywhere
What if the definition we’ve been given for ‘trauma’ fails to reflect the actual lived experience of it? What if we’ve been telling each other, and ourselves, for decades not to use the ‘t’ word, when it could have the piece that was missing all along?
The Theory of Anxiety: Control and Other Drugs
It is my belief that most human experiences are a system, and are part of a system…
Takers and Givers: Navigating People-Pleasing and Narcissistic Manipulation
I know you don’t really want to hear it, but people-pleasing and narcissism are two sides of the same coin…
Troubles of an Empath - Feeling Other People’s Feelings
The experience of picking up on other people’s feelings (or thoughts or stresses) is a hugely common experience, but it’s also one that rarely gets spoken about.
Unmasking: A Diary Entry on Pretending
Unmasking was a term that began, for me, as a process neuro-divergents go through when we decide to stop doing all the little things we do to convince other people we’re not weird.